Monday, March 28, 2011
The Crazy Ex wife..
So we have a lawyer...pretty much Colorado is a "MOM" state!! She calls on St. Patrick's day and says "do you want your son?!" ...Obviously the answer was yes, I mean what the hell are we fighting for!? So my husband flies out the next morning, in the meantime an officer checks on his son, and his ex-wife says "yes tell him to come get him!" So the officer confirms with her that yes, he is on the way, and the papers are already sent to her lawyer...well the very next day, while my husband in literally in air, I am talking to my lawyer, the crazy ex wanted to know some details, which was agreed on...in the meantime her joke of a husband, calls their own lawyer screaming at him...no details why...and she says NO he can't have him...meanwhile the kids bags are packed, and she runs for 3 days! The police finally catch her leaving her home, and she lies to the officers face and says I NEVER told him to come her...so we have a great witness right!? Apparently not, still awaiting trial, 10 days in Colorado and she refuses any personal contact between dad and son! The justice system is disgusting!
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
UGH...The dreaded ex-wife!
So, we recently went to Colorado to see the kids...what a trip! To say the least, the entire 10 days we were there ...we got 4 hours a day with the kids (After we were there for 2 days, with 2 days off in between visits!).
PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND!...when the kids saw my husband they cried their little eyes out and wouldn't let him go! This all happened in front of the ex-wife(evil has a first name..its DEE, and her husband AKA: What a Joke.) Still they kept up their antics and power trips the entire time...we singed a contract, and it stated that if the kids wanted to spend the night she would allow it, and if they asked to come home we would allow that as well...needless to say we didn't have to keep our end of the deal, the kids didn't want to leave, however...she would allow only one overnight!
Why can't people get a divorce and just end it their? Why can't they understand that kids need both parents and they aren't pawns in a chess game!?
My EX-husband (and his evil ways) and I got a divorce, but I took my free tickets for airfare and gave them all to my kids to travel and see their dad...even though I hated his guts!...this went on for 4 years 3 times a year!
Since we left, the kids have called EVERYDAY and now realize that their mom has lied the entire time, and that my husband is a great dad that loves them both very much...but yet we have to go to court and fight to see them on a regular schedule until we move to Colorado. She has delayed these hearings since November! Coming up to the middle of February still have to wait until March! We did not choose to spend thousands of dollars on a lawyer...we don't need it, my husband has a right to have a relationship with his kids! She however got one to rake him over the coals..because she is guilty of keeping them from him all around the board! We provided 13 or more emails from her "what a joke" husband belittling my husband, telling him to give up the kids, that he is a deadbeat dad, that the kids call him Matt, not dad, that they don't want anything to do with him, ect ect...and her lawyer petitioned the court to throw them out because it was detrimental to her character and her evil husband. NO SHIT SHERLOCK HOLMES! BUT! Thats our proof of just the small amount of crap we take from them everyday! We even warned them that we would use them in court...he still emailed...oh well! Shoot your nose off to despite your face! Their power trip is about to abruptly end! The kids know the truth and LOVE their dad to pieces, the lies they have told have back fired because the oldest child is mad! He is mad that he was lied to, that they degraded his dad, that every year that went by without seeing my husband is time he could of had!
DIVORCED PARENTS LISTEN UP! DIVORCE YOUR HUSBAND BUT DON'T USE YOUR KIDS TO GET EVEN!
Just a little history, my husand spent 2 years in country for his deployment, one of which she refused any phone calls, so my husband left without saying he loved the kids, and her "joke of a husband" told my husband that his wished he died over there.
She has full custody, and the agreement was that Matt and her would verbally agree on visitation...that all changed because they decided they didn't want him in their life for whatever evil reason...she shut her own family out as well...having her parents die without having a relationship with their grandkids.
We have filed paper upon paper and the Colorado courts still refuse to act on behalf of the kids best interest, but will act when her lawyer says anything...of course they go hand in hand..I have yet to find an honest judge or lawyer..hopefully they are out there! We have had 2 welfare visits because the step parent started screaming at my husbands son, and the phone went dead, and the other because they refused his calls for 2 months! My husband and I sent 2 huge boxes of gifts for Christmas and we stated we wanted to be on the phone when they opened them..well we got a call AFTER they were all opened...their "joke of human" (moms husband)told them both to hurry up because the child they created didn't understand why he didnt have gifts...UM SO WHAT, the child is 4, and is a screaming hellion on wheels...he needs discipline the the kind you hand out your step-children! Maybe he wouldn't be such a brat if you actually taught him some manners...Matt's kids come second now that they have their own child together!
Did I mention her own grandfather called child welfare on her..yeah...that would be number 3! Or the time that Matt's son mentioned he wanted to live with us...his JOKE of a step father told him to get the sony handheld game we got him and meet him in the garage...smashed the game and told him to take all his clothes off...as he stood there in his underwear, the JOKE of a step father said "I bought the clothes on your back, your father does nothing!" (my husband pays over a 1,000 a month papers available upon request) and proceeded to degrade the child while badmouthing his own father...that will be brought up in court!
So you see, divorce at its nastiest! totally uncalled for...and Karma...it is a bitch!
So we are still fighting ...and always will...the poor kids are in a household where the parents do NOTHING...the kids do all the cooking, cleaning, and whatever else needs to be done! "child labor where are you!?" Don't get me wrong ...kids need chores, but there is a line where chores shouldn't become built in maid...pray for these kids if you wish...and all the dads out there getting the shaft!
UGHHHHHH BLOG OF THE DAY!
PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND!...when the kids saw my husband they cried their little eyes out and wouldn't let him go! This all happened in front of the ex-wife(evil has a first name..its DEE, and her husband AKA: What a Joke.) Still they kept up their antics and power trips the entire time...we singed a contract, and it stated that if the kids wanted to spend the night she would allow it, and if they asked to come home we would allow that as well...needless to say we didn't have to keep our end of the deal, the kids didn't want to leave, however...she would allow only one overnight!
Why can't people get a divorce and just end it their? Why can't they understand that kids need both parents and they aren't pawns in a chess game!?
My EX-husband (and his evil ways) and I got a divorce, but I took my free tickets for airfare and gave them all to my kids to travel and see their dad...even though I hated his guts!...this went on for 4 years 3 times a year!
Since we left, the kids have called EVERYDAY and now realize that their mom has lied the entire time, and that my husband is a great dad that loves them both very much...but yet we have to go to court and fight to see them on a regular schedule until we move to Colorado. She has delayed these hearings since November! Coming up to the middle of February still have to wait until March! We did not choose to spend thousands of dollars on a lawyer...we don't need it, my husband has a right to have a relationship with his kids! She however got one to rake him over the coals..because she is guilty of keeping them from him all around the board! We provided 13 or more emails from her "what a joke" husband belittling my husband, telling him to give up the kids, that he is a deadbeat dad, that the kids call him Matt, not dad, that they don't want anything to do with him, ect ect...and her lawyer petitioned the court to throw them out because it was detrimental to her character and her evil husband. NO SHIT SHERLOCK HOLMES! BUT! Thats our proof of just the small amount of crap we take from them everyday! We even warned them that we would use them in court...he still emailed...oh well! Shoot your nose off to despite your face! Their power trip is about to abruptly end! The kids know the truth and LOVE their dad to pieces, the lies they have told have back fired because the oldest child is mad! He is mad that he was lied to, that they degraded his dad, that every year that went by without seeing my husband is time he could of had!
DIVORCED PARENTS LISTEN UP! DIVORCE YOUR HUSBAND BUT DON'T USE YOUR KIDS TO GET EVEN!
Just a little history, my husand spent 2 years in country for his deployment, one of which she refused any phone calls, so my husband left without saying he loved the kids, and her "joke of a husband" told my husband that his wished he died over there.
She has full custody, and the agreement was that Matt and her would verbally agree on visitation...that all changed because they decided they didn't want him in their life for whatever evil reason...she shut her own family out as well...having her parents die without having a relationship with their grandkids.
We have filed paper upon paper and the Colorado courts still refuse to act on behalf of the kids best interest, but will act when her lawyer says anything...of course they go hand in hand..I have yet to find an honest judge or lawyer..hopefully they are out there! We have had 2 welfare visits because the step parent started screaming at my husbands son, and the phone went dead, and the other because they refused his calls for 2 months! My husband and I sent 2 huge boxes of gifts for Christmas and we stated we wanted to be on the phone when they opened them..well we got a call AFTER they were all opened...their "joke of human" (moms husband)told them both to hurry up because the child they created didn't understand why he didnt have gifts...UM SO WHAT, the child is 4, and is a screaming hellion on wheels...he needs discipline the the kind you hand out your step-children! Maybe he wouldn't be such a brat if you actually taught him some manners...Matt's kids come second now that they have their own child together!
Did I mention her own grandfather called child welfare on her..yeah...that would be number 3! Or the time that Matt's son mentioned he wanted to live with us...his JOKE of a step father told him to get the sony handheld game we got him and meet him in the garage...smashed the game and told him to take all his clothes off...as he stood there in his underwear, the JOKE of a step father said "I bought the clothes on your back, your father does nothing!" (my husband pays over a 1,000 a month papers available upon request) and proceeded to degrade the child while badmouthing his own father...that will be brought up in court!
So you see, divorce at its nastiest! totally uncalled for...and Karma...it is a bitch!
So we are still fighting ...and always will...the poor kids are in a household where the parents do NOTHING...the kids do all the cooking, cleaning, and whatever else needs to be done! "child labor where are you!?" Don't get me wrong ...kids need chores, but there is a line where chores shouldn't become built in maid...pray for these kids if you wish...and all the dads out there getting the shaft!
UGHHHHHH BLOG OF THE DAY!
Saturday, November 20, 2010
The last year...
So obviously Nursing school is a blessing in disguise! Besides the fact that I LOVE IT, it keeps my days short, and my nights even shorter!
When I look back it seems as though the year has really gone by...but these days when I know in a week or so I get my husband and life back; I have come to dread the weekend...yes the weekend!
It's almost as if time stands still, and I really get antsy! Being busy is the best advice I can give a new Army wife starting deployment...If I hadn't started college the day after Matthew left I have NO CLUE how I would have survived this past year! It has been a "time blessing" for sure!
Of course I have a million things to do before he gets home for school, but they consist of actually being at school...I could clean and organize, but then the stress of finding a million other things to do starts stressing me out! (Do you see my reasoning on NOT cleaning...*evil laugh inserted*) I hate to clean...really I do...not because I "don't" want to do it, its that I start one thing and see 4 other things to do besides that..then I am in a mess bigger than I started...what a crazy viscous cycle!
On a better note, many of my army wives are completely beside themselves with joy, gearing up to head out and get our men!! It's a daydream that I keep going over in my head, and every time it only seems to get better and better...so I REALLY hope reality is up to the standards of my daydreams!
I am bringing our "son" Maverick with me...a lot of people look at me and say "why are you bringing your dog!?"
Well, let me explain something...Maverick is our 2 year old Boxer...our child. That boy was at my side with every emotion imaginable, as if I had just poured my heart out to him and he was just there to say "It's going to be okay."
I know for some they can never relate to what I am saying, but for others, the feeling of having that loyal, true bond it's priceless.
Maverick has been by my side through this entire process, and many many nights just sat by my side while I would cry and rant...he was there for every Skype call making both Matthew and I laugh, and has always been a ray of sunshine on the cloudiest deployment days. It was as if he just "knew."
I never had to explain my feelings, or bother even talking about it to anyone...my broken record of deployment depression was just unsaid, unneeded, unwanted, and he was there with those big brown lookers, and cutest face ever... I can say with complete honesty and confidence, he was a major factor in my deployment survival.
He is our boy...canine or not.
When I look back it seems as though the year has really gone by...but these days when I know in a week or so I get my husband and life back; I have come to dread the weekend...yes the weekend!
It's almost as if time stands still, and I really get antsy! Being busy is the best advice I can give a new Army wife starting deployment...If I hadn't started college the day after Matthew left I have NO CLUE how I would have survived this past year! It has been a "time blessing" for sure!
Of course I have a million things to do before he gets home for school, but they consist of actually being at school...I could clean and organize, but then the stress of finding a million other things to do starts stressing me out! (Do you see my reasoning on NOT cleaning...*evil laugh inserted*) I hate to clean...really I do...not because I "don't" want to do it, its that I start one thing and see 4 other things to do besides that..then I am in a mess bigger than I started...what a crazy viscous cycle!
On a better note, many of my army wives are completely beside themselves with joy, gearing up to head out and get our men!! It's a daydream that I keep going over in my head, and every time it only seems to get better and better...so I REALLY hope reality is up to the standards of my daydreams!
I am bringing our "son" Maverick with me...a lot of people look at me and say "why are you bringing your dog!?"
Well, let me explain something...Maverick is our 2 year old Boxer...our child. That boy was at my side with every emotion imaginable, as if I had just poured my heart out to him and he was just there to say "It's going to be okay."
I know for some they can never relate to what I am saying, but for others, the feeling of having that loyal, true bond it's priceless.
Maverick has been by my side through this entire process, and many many nights just sat by my side while I would cry and rant...he was there for every Skype call making both Matthew and I laugh, and has always been a ray of sunshine on the cloudiest deployment days. It was as if he just "knew."
I never had to explain my feelings, or bother even talking about it to anyone...my broken record of deployment depression was just unsaid, unneeded, unwanted, and he was there with those big brown lookers, and cutest face ever... I can say with complete honesty and confidence, he was a major factor in my deployment survival.
He is our boy...canine or not.
What I have learned the hard way...
If I had a dollar for every time my heart was broken by that one person who I would have laid my life down for...I still couldn't buy the amount of strength and determination I have gained, or paid for the journey that has made me who I am today, I couldn't have bought that one way ticket around the world, or the years of college that prepare you for the world. The fact is, that the most trying times in your life can break you, kick you, and knock you down, but what most people don't realize is that I walk on a trampoline...so you can knock me down, but I will bounce back up faster than most...because I have learned the hard way that people will walk all over you if they think for one second that they will win. It's about fighting, for yourself...if you can't fight for yourself, you can't support anyone else. Its really hard for people to get that...but if you think about it...its true...in every sense.
People love to be there for people... and give all kinds of advice when they live in turmoil themselves...so who would you listen to? The person who is miserable, but you think gives great advice, or that person that has really got it together...its all about choices...you choose your destiny, and who travels that journey with you.
Live smart, choose smarter!
People love to be there for people... and give all kinds of advice when they live in turmoil themselves...so who would you listen to? The person who is miserable, but you think gives great advice, or that person that has really got it together...its all about choices...you choose your destiny, and who travels that journey with you.
Live smart, choose smarter!
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